In general, all people have insecurities. We all have things that we wish we could do better, do more of, be recognized for, etc. And there’s always going to be someone who looks more attractive, does a better job, wins more people, has more of a competitive edge, or is more magnetic than we think we are. That’s just life. But what I’ve found is that when we fully occupy our OWN space, meaning that we do our best in all that WE are able to do, there is no room for insecurity. Because in this space, I’ve done all that I can do. I’ve blessed who I’m supposed to bless… I’ve smiled at who I’m supposed to smile at… I’ve devoted my time and attention to the things I’ve committed to… I’ve tended to my body in a manner that leaves nothing lacking… I’ve made sure that those I love and care about know the depth of my love and appreciation for them… I’ve committed myself to becoming the best “ME” that I can be, so that no one else can step in and assume (or CONsume) the space that is supposed to be designated for me. And having done all of these things, I now…stand.
Sure it sounds like a LOT OF SHIT TO DO!!!! I mean, who really does all of that??? Who leaves NOTHING “undone”?? Well, let me ask you this: In a day, how many tasks do you reckon you’re able to accomplish on a regular basis? 20? 30? 100? All things considered, most people complete at LEAST 1000 tasks in a day… When I say “all things considered”, I mean it… 1) Get out of bed, 2) stretch, 3) walk across the room, 4) go to the bathroom, 5) wash your hands (and if you don’t, let me just tell you….THAT’S JUST NASTY AS HELL; keep your bodily fluids to yourself, please), 6) brush your teeth, 7) open the blinds….need I go on? So in the “laundry list” of things I mentioned before, there weren’t that many things listed…Is it reasonable to say that you could do that and MUCH MORE, if you put your attention to it? Absolutely.
What brought about this blog? I’d been feeling somewhat “inadequate” in my own mind. Regardless of the things I do and all those I come in contact with on a regular basis, because some basic goals and aspirations hadn’t been met, I began to question what I was “missing”. What didn’t I have that the next person had? What made this other person so much more successful in this particular area? How was I continuously overlooked or seemingly un(der)developed in these things? The answer: I wasn’t fully occupying my space.
We were all born with various gifts, talents, abilities, passions, capacities, etc. But most of us don’t always bring all that we are to the table. Why? Well, I won’t dare speak for you, but for me I didn’t feel worthy to own up to my TRUE self…the self that had such a presence that was the same kind of “beautiful” that I could so appreciate when I saw that same energy on someone else. [I could definitely relate to the prose by Marriane Williamson that reveals that our deepest fear is not anything outside of us, but rather our own best self!] And in fact, I was so busy admiring (and in some cases being jealous or envious of) someone else’s “flair” that I didn’t appreciate or invest time and energy into developing the things that I do extraordinarily. I was so busy wishing I could have the finances of the next person, that I missed pouring myself fully into the opportunities that had been given to me, to better my own financial future. Too much energy and self-loathing wishing my body looked like someone else’s that I didn’t express love and kindness to myself and make sure that I was putting my own “best” forward. I could paint the details of this picture forever, but I think you get the point.
The point is to encourage you to pay attention to the space you were meant to occupy, and DO IT!! No one else can effectively and adequately stand on your stage. Not one other person can give the love that YOU were meant to give. No one else can write the poems, books, songs and/or screenplays that were birthed out of your unique experiences. Of all the beautiful people in the world, no one will be beheld with the same awe and admiration as when you grace the world with the essential and authentic energy that you are and will attract just because you fell in love…with YOU.
No “embellishment” necessary…you already have and are everything you need to be. No petty jealousy necessary…it’s impossible for him/her to “beat you” offering your unique seasoning to the flavor of Love. And so on…
If we would but only learn the power that we represent and can demonstrate, in full essence… If we would but dare to be introduced to the greatness that permeates our very being… If ONLY we would stop being intimidated by our real selves, and stop running from the responsibility of our richness… Phew!
Take your stage. Own your truth. Occupy your space.